Lots of people doubt themselves without even realizing it. Procrastinating, being an overachiever or workaholic, or having a substance abuse problem are just a handful of symptoms. Here we cover how to tell if you may be suffering from self-doubt, and what to do about it.
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People often approach goals with a brute-force approach: just put your head down and push (often in the direction of a shiny object). That approach doesn't tend to make people happy or keep them motivated, though . . . which is why New Year's resolutions tend to flame out quickly. Here's what the science tells us about how to create positive change and feel great while doing it!
As good as social connection can be, it also leaves us vulnerable to being hurt by others. That's just part of the bargain. But how best to cope with it when it happens? And when are hurt feelings a sign that something inside you could use some attention?
Here I respond to a reader's request to hear more about unhealthy relationships with food. Why can it be so hard to eat the types and amounts of food we want to, and what do mindlessness and mindfulness have to do with it? Read on!
Toxic relationships are never fun, but when they involve a friend whom you'd previously given an "all-access pass" to you, the pain can cut right to your core. Here I provide a framework for rationally assessing the situation and moving forward with a minimum of unnecessary distress.
Who likes being afraid? Or appearing to be afraid? Not many people, which is why fear often goes underground. But the fact is that everyone is afraid of something or other. Healthy fear is . . . healthy, but too much of it can be debilitating and keep you stuck in life and unhappy. Here are five tips you can use today to start conquering your fears and taking your life back.
Whether you're remodeling your house or your life, you need to make effort. In particular, you need to keep your long-term goals in mind, which usually means de-emphasizing your short-term impulses. But if you frame this as "delaying gratification," you're making things harder for yourself than they need to be. Plus, you're missing the gratification that's right in front of you.
If you've ever witnessed something so amazing that you were awestruck, and saw the world in a new way afterward, then you've experienced the aesthetically sublime. Researchers have identified the conditions you need for those types of experiences. It so happens, they have a lot in common with what you need for a sublime life.
Craving is the more extreme cousin of wanting. It feels like a whole-body imperative to satisfy a desire, and rewards you with sheer bliss when you do. But is there any downside to indulging one? Here we take a quick look at how craving works, including why people sometimes crave things they don’t even like, and what happens in your brain when you give in to them.
Your capacity for abstract thought, like any tool, can work for you or against you. Case in point: regret. It's a well-intentioned product of your mind, meant to keep you from repeating painful mistakes, but when it haunts you over time it can do more harm than good. Here, we identify the innate tendencies of your mind that lay the groundwork for long-term regret and what you can do to nip the problem in the bud.