People often approach goals with a brute-force approach: just put your head down and push (often in the direction of a shiny object). That approach doesn't tend to make people happy or keep them motivated, though . . . which is why New Year's resolutions tend to flame out quickly. Here's what the science tells us about how to create positive change and feel great while doing it!
Articles tagged with "compassion"
As good as social connection can be, it also leaves us vulnerable to being hurt by others. That's just part of the bargain. But how best to cope with it when it happens? And when are hurt feelings a sign that something inside you could use some attention?
Here I respond to a reader's request to hear more about unhealthy relationships with food. Why can it be so hard to eat the types and amounts of food we want to, and what do mindlessness and mindfulness have to do with it? Read on!
Toxic relationships are never fun, but when they involve a friend whom you'd previously given an "all-access pass" to you, the pain can cut right to your core. Here I provide a framework for rationally assessing the situation and moving forward with a minimum of unnecessary distress.
Physical health tends to get the lion's share of people's attention when they decide to get in shape, but if you neglect your mind you're neglecting a very important part of your body! Practicing mindfulness meditation provides a wealth of physical and mental health benefits and complements your efforts to achieve whole-life well-being.
If you're a mom nowadays, chances are you feel pulled in different directions by competing roles and responsibilities . . . but that's not all. Moms often have to cope with the pressure—internal and external—to be perfect, on top of it all! Here I break down the "perfect mother" myth and give some tips for taking care of yourself, and appreciating how good you are already.
If you've ever witnessed something so amazing that you were awestruck, and saw the world in a new way afterward, then you've experienced the aesthetically sublime. Researchers have identified the conditions you need for those types of experiences. It so happens, they have a lot in common with what you need for a sublime life.
In Part One, we began to explore the issue of "toxic" and "non-toxic" people from the perspective of shared qualities, rather than differences. Here, we dive more deeply into that issue and arrive at a new understanding that acknowledges both equally. By separating the person from the deed, you can approach (and leave) your relationships with difficult people in a way that maximizes wisdom and compassion.
It's great if you're making effort to cultivate a Right Life. But, let's face it: the rest of the world doesn't always cooperate with you. So-called "toxic" people operate in a manner that's opposed to happiness and healthy functioning—theirs and yours. Here, we discuss how you can begin to understand and work with such people, and the dangers you face. Also, we start to take a look at the toxic/non-toxic distinction itself—which may not be as distinct as you think.
In Part One we explored what suspense is: essentially, a gratifying relationship to uncertainty. Then, we left you hanging with some examples of fear- and suspense-inducing situations to consider. Now, we dive into four critical differences between the two, and identify the steps you can take to convert more of the former into the latter. Uncertainty is surely coming your way—what you make of it is largely up to you.