Toxic relationships are never fun, but when they involve a friend whom you'd previously given an "all-access pass" to you, the pain can cut right to your core. Here I provide a framework for rationally assessing the situation and moving forward with a minimum of unnecessary distress.
Articles tagged with "redemption"
If you find that your mood suffers on the weekend, you might be experiencing the "Sunday neurosis," and researchers find that it becomes more common the more education you have. This can't mean that education makes you feel bad, can it? Or do these findings highlight things we already know to be true about the impact of work upon your wellbeing?
If you've ever witnessed something so amazing that you were awestruck, and saw the world in a new way afterward, then you've experienced the aesthetically sublime. Researchers have identified the conditions you need for those types of experiences. It so happens, they have a lot in common with what you need for a sublime life.
Craving is the more extreme cousin of wanting. It feels like a whole-body imperative to satisfy a desire, and rewards you with sheer bliss when you do. But is there any downside to indulging one? Here we take a quick look at how craving works, including why people sometimes crave things they don’t even like, and what happens in your brain when you give in to them.
Your capacity for abstract thought, like any tool, can work for you or against you. Case in point: regret. It's a well-intentioned product of your mind, meant to keep you from repeating painful mistakes, but when it haunts you over time it can do more harm than good. Here, we identify the innate tendencies of your mind that lay the groundwork for long-term regret and what you can do to nip the problem in the bud.
In Part One we explored what suspense is: essentially, a gratifying relationship to uncertainty. Then, we left you hanging with some examples of fear- and suspense-inducing situations to consider. Now, we dive into four critical differences between the two, and identify the steps you can take to convert more of the former into the latter. Uncertainty is surely coming your way—what you make of it is largely up to you.
Suspense can be thought of as a combination of fear, delight, and hope. It's a thrill that people seek out, whether through fictional works, haunted houses, or bingo. But often when you face a potentially problematic unknown in your life, you're just stuck with the fear. Why is that? Here, we explore how suspense works, and begin to consider how you can infuse your cliffhanger moments with more delight and hope.
When times are tough, people are quick to dispense feel-good clichés like “every cloud has a silver lining” or “everything happens for a reason.” For some people, it’s a matter of faith that the universe is inherently reasonable, whether it’s through the action of destiny or God’s will. However, making meaning from difficulties is a very human, personal process that often requires effort, and not just blind faith.
Our series on goal achievement has stretched over six months, so you're forgiven if you've missed a few. Here we've collected the fundamentals you need to know if you want to be effective in accomplishing your goals. But the benefits of putting these things into practice don't stop there.
Have you ever tried to stop or cut back on doing something, then slipped up just once, and then completely abandoned your goal? For instance, you've been successful at watching what you eat, but then one day you eat too much, and a multi-day binge ensues? Throwing in the towel like this can happen for many reasons; it might be because you're applying the wrong goal-setting strategy.