Articles tagged with "relationships"

Six Ways to Achieve Your Resolutions and Feel Happier (All Year!)

People often approach goals with a brute-force approach: just put your head down and push (often in the direction of a shiny object). That approach doesn't tend to make people happy or keep them motivated, though . . . which is why New Year's resolutions tend to flame out quickly. Here's what the science tells us about how to create positive change and feel great while doing it!

Hurt Feelings: When Are They Too Much?

As good as social connection can be, it also leaves us vulnerable to being hurt by others. That's just part of the bargain. But how best to cope with it when it happens? And when are hurt feelings a sign that something inside you could use some attention?

When You're in a Toxic Friendship: The Healthy Way Forward

Toxic relationships are never fun, but when they involve a friend whom you'd previously given an "all-access pass" to you, the pain can cut right to your core. Here I provide a framework for rationally assessing the situation and moving forward with a minimum of unnecessary distress.

Three Communication Habits You NEED for a Successful New Marriage (Or Any Other Relationship)

When things feel effortless, like during the honeymoon phase of a marriage, it's easy to take your relationship for granted and fall into bad habits. It's actually the perfect time to establish healthy communication habits that will bear fruit for years to come. (By the way, these tips aren't exclusive to married people. Put them into practice and you'll be hard-pressed to have a bad relationship with anyone in your life!)

Embracing the Imperfect Mother

If you're a mom nowadays, chances are you feel pulled in different directions by competing roles and responsibilities . . . but that's not all. Moms often have to cope with the pressure—internal and external—to be perfect, on top of it all! Here I break down the "perfect mother" myth and give some tips for taking care of yourself, and appreciating how good you are already.

How to Cope With Toxic People, Part Two

In Part One, we began to explore the issue of "toxic" and "non-toxic" people from the perspective of shared qualities, rather than differences. Here, we dive more deeply into that issue and arrive at a new understanding that acknowledges both equally. By separating the person from the deed, you can approach (and leave) your relationships with difficult people in a way that maximizes wisdom and compassion.

How to Cope With Toxic People, Part One

It's great if you're making effort to cultivate a Right Life. But, let's face it: the rest of the world doesn't always cooperate with you. So-called "toxic" people operate in a manner that's opposed to happiness and healthy functioning—theirs and yours. Here, we discuss how you can begin to understand and work with such people, and the dangers you face. Also, we start to take a look at the toxic/non-toxic distinction itself—which may not be as distinct as you think.

Coupling Motivation: Four Steps to Finding a Relationship That Fits You

What motivates you to do anything in life is a complex interweave of personal choice and interest combined with your social environment, and the pursuit of romantic relationships is no exception.

Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part Two

In Part One we explored what suspense is: essentially, a gratifying relationship to uncertainty. Then, we left you hanging with some examples of fear- and suspense-inducing situations to consider. Now, we dive into four critical differences between the two, and identify the steps you can take to convert more of the former into the latter. Uncertainty is surely coming your way—what you make of it is largely up to you.

Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part One

Suspense can be thought of as a combination of fear, delight, and hope. It's a thrill that people seek out, whether through fictional works, haunted houses, or bingo. But often when you face a potentially problematic unknown in your life, you're just stuck with the fear. Why is that? Here, we explore how suspense works, and begin to consider how you can infuse your cliffhanger moments with more delight and hope.

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