Articles tagged with "ambivalence"

How to Get Unstuck When Fear is Holding You Back

Fear can keep you stuck, unfulfilled, and unhappy. It can show up even when you know you're making the best decision, so it's not a reliable indicator of what to do. Or is it? Here's how to get unstuck, and even use fear to your advantage, when it starts to creep up on you.

What a Sensory Deprivation Tank Can Reveal About Facing Difficulty

Was spending a Friday night in a sensory deprivation tank blissful? Not exactly, but it did illustrate the aversion and reactivity that causes us to suffer, and what we can do about it.

Overachievement, Self-Sabotage, and the Other Faces of Self-Doubt

Lots of people doubt themselves without even realizing it. Procrastinating, being an overachiever or workaholic, or having a substance abuse problem are just a handful of symptoms. Here we cover how to tell if you may be suffering from self-doubt, and what to do about it.

Six Ways to Achieve Your Resolutions and Feel Happier (All Year!)

People often approach goals with a brute-force approach: just put your head down and push (often in the direction of a shiny object). That approach doesn't tend to make people happy or keep them motivated, though . . . which is why New Year's resolutions tend to flame out quickly. Here's what the science tells us about how to create positive change and feel great while doing it!

Hurt Feelings: When Are They Too Much?

As good as social connection can be, it also leaves us vulnerable to being hurt by others. That's just part of the bargain. But how best to cope with it when it happens? And when are hurt feelings a sign that something inside you could use some attention?

Unhealthy Relationships With Food: When Eating Is What's Eating You

Here I respond to a reader's request to hear more about unhealthy relationships with food. Why can it be so hard to eat the types and amounts of food we want to, and what do mindlessness and mindfulness have to do with it? Read on!

When You're in a Toxic Friendship: The Healthy Way Forward

Toxic relationships are never fun, but when they involve a friend whom you'd previously given an "all-access pass" to you, the pain can cut right to your core. Here I provide a framework for rationally assessing the situation and moving forward with a minimum of unnecessary distress.

Five Ways to Start Conquering Your Fears Today

Who likes being afraid? Or appearing to be afraid? Not many people, which is why fear often goes underground. But the fact is that everyone is afraid of something or other. Healthy fear is . . . healthy, but too much of it can be debilitating and keep you stuck in life and unhappy. Here are five tips you can use today to start conquering your fears and taking your life back.

Why You Should Stop Using the Term “Delayed Gratification” . . . Right Now

Whether you're remodeling your house or your life, you need to make effort. In particular, you need to keep your long-term goals in mind, which usually means de-emphasizing your short-term impulses. But if you frame this as "delaying gratification," you're making things harder for yourself than they need to be. Plus, you're missing the gratification that's right in front of you.

How to Make Room For the Sublime in Your Life

If you've ever witnessed something so amazing that you were awestruck, and saw the world in a new way afterward, then you've experienced the aesthetically sublime. Researchers have identified the conditions you need for those types of experiences. It so happens, they have a lot in common with what you need for a sublime life.

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