Articles tagged with "compulsive behavior"

How to Get Unstuck When Fear is Holding You Back

Fear can keep you stuck, unfulfilled, and unhappy. It can show up even when you know you're making the best decision, so it's not a reliable indicator of what to do. Or is it? Here's how to get unstuck, and even use fear to your advantage, when it starts to creep up on you.

What a Sensory Deprivation Tank Can Reveal About Facing Difficulty

Was spending a Friday night in a sensory deprivation tank blissful? Not exactly, but it did illustrate the aversion and reactivity that causes us to suffer, and what we can do about it.

Overachievement, Self-Sabotage, and the Other Faces of Self-Doubt

Lots of people doubt themselves without even realizing it. Procrastinating, being an overachiever or workaholic, or having a substance abuse problem are just a handful of symptoms. Here we cover how to tell if you may be suffering from self-doubt, and what to do about it.

Six Ways to Achieve Your Resolutions and Feel Happier (All Year!)

People often approach goals with a brute-force approach: just put your head down and push (often in the direction of a shiny object). That approach doesn't tend to make people happy or keep them motivated, though . . . which is why New Year's resolutions tend to flame out quickly. Here's what the science tells us about how to create positive change and feel great while doing it!

Hurt Feelings: When Are They Too Much?

As good as social connection can be, it also leaves us vulnerable to being hurt by others. That's just part of the bargain. But how best to cope with it when it happens? And when are hurt feelings a sign that something inside you could use some attention?

Unhealthy Relationships With Food: When Eating Is What's Eating You

Here I respond to a reader's request to hear more about unhealthy relationships with food. Why can it be so hard to eat the types and amounts of food we want to, and what do mindlessness and mindfulness have to do with it? Read on!

Why You Should Stop Using the Term “Delayed Gratification” . . . Right Now

Whether you're remodeling your house or your life, you need to make effort. In particular, you need to keep your long-term goals in mind, which usually means de-emphasizing your short-term impulses. But if you frame this as "delaying gratification," you're making things harder for yourself than they need to be. Plus, you're missing the gratification that's right in front of you.

How Cravings Bite the Hand That Feeds Them

Craving is the more extreme cousin of wanting. It feels like a whole-body imperative to satisfy a desire, and rewards you with sheer bliss when you do. But is there any downside to indulging one? Here we take a quick look at how craving works, including why people sometimes crave things they don’t even like, and what happens in your brain when you give in to them.

Three Things You Can Do to Stop Being Haunted by Regret

Your capacity for abstract thought, like any tool, can work for you or against you. Case in point: regret. It's a well-intentioned product of your mind, meant to keep you from repeating painful mistakes, but when it haunts you over time it can do more harm than good. Here, we identify the innate tendencies of your mind that lay the groundwork for long-term regret and what you can do to nip the problem in the bud.

Self-Esteem and Social Media: Human Drives in an Electronic World

Self-esteem can be seen as a mechanism for information exchange between yourself and the environment: it enables you to express your qualities or status (or the ones you'd like to have) and respond emotionally to how you're received. When the innate human drive for connection is filtered through social media, some interesting results emerge. Some may change the way you use Facebook, and others reinforce what we already know about social needs.

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