Articles tagged with "disappointment"

What a Sensory Deprivation Tank Can Reveal About Facing Difficulty

Was spending a Friday night in a sensory deprivation tank blissful? Not exactly, but it did illustrate the aversion and reactivity that causes us to suffer, and what we can do about it.

Overachievement, Self-Sabotage, and the Other Faces of Self-Doubt

Lots of people doubt themselves without even realizing it. Procrastinating, being an overachiever or workaholic, or having a substance abuse problem are just a handful of symptoms. Here we cover how to tell if you may be suffering from self-doubt, and what to do about it.

Six Ways to Achieve Your Resolutions and Feel Happier (All Year!)

People often approach goals with a brute-force approach: just put your head down and push (often in the direction of a shiny object). That approach doesn't tend to make people happy or keep them motivated, though . . . which is why New Year's resolutions tend to flame out quickly. Here's what the science tells us about how to create positive change and feel great while doing it!

Hurt Feelings: When Are They Too Much?

As good as social connection can be, it also leaves us vulnerable to being hurt by others. That's just part of the bargain. But how best to cope with it when it happens? And when are hurt feelings a sign that something inside you could use some attention?

When You're in a Toxic Friendship: The Healthy Way Forward

Toxic relationships are never fun, but when they involve a friend whom you'd previously given an "all-access pass" to you, the pain can cut right to your core. Here I provide a framework for rationally assessing the situation and moving forward with a minimum of unnecessary distress.

Embracing the Imperfect Mother

If you're a mom nowadays, chances are you feel pulled in different directions by competing roles and responsibilities . . . but that's not all. Moms often have to cope with the pressure—internal and external—to be perfect, on top of it all! Here I break down the "perfect mother" myth and give some tips for taking care of yourself, and appreciating how good you are already.

Why You Should Stop Using the Term “Delayed Gratification” . . . Right Now

Whether you're remodeling your house or your life, you need to make effort. In particular, you need to keep your long-term goals in mind, which usually means de-emphasizing your short-term impulses. But if you frame this as "delaying gratification," you're making things harder for yourself than they need to be. Plus, you're missing the gratification that's right in front of you.

The Sunday Neurosis: Does Your Education Affect How You Feel On the Weekend?

If you find that your mood suffers on the weekend, you might be experiencing the "Sunday neurosis," and researchers find that it becomes more common the more education you have. This can't mean that education makes you feel bad, can it? Or do these findings highlight things we already know to be true about the impact of work upon your wellbeing?

How to Make Room For the Sublime in Your Life

If you've ever witnessed something so amazing that you were awestruck, and saw the world in a new way afterward, then you've experienced the aesthetically sublime. Researchers have identified the conditions you need for those types of experiences. It so happens, they have a lot in common with what you need for a sublime life.

How Cravings Bite the Hand That Feeds Them

Craving is the more extreme cousin of wanting. It feels like a whole-body imperative to satisfy a desire, and rewards you with sheer bliss when you do. But is there any downside to indulging one? Here we take a quick look at how craving works, including why people sometimes crave things they don’t even like, and what happens in your brain when you give in to them.

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