5 Steps to Stop Thinking About the Past (in a Healthy Way)

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5 Steps to Stop Thinking About the Past (in a Healthy Way)

Our mind is a wonderful thing—except when it’s out of control, replaying painful, embarrassing, or shameful events from our past. Rumination isn’t just unpleasant, though. It retraumatizes us and reinforces negative beliefs (even though our mind is actually trying to help!).

Here’s a five-step approach to healing and growing where necessary, so you can stop dwelling on the past and start charting a new path forward.

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How to Deal with Crisis and Difficult Times

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How to Deal with Crisis and Difficult Times

Crises come in all different magnitudes, but they’re all anxiety-provoking, and that usually causes people to avoid them or tune out the pain and difficulty they bring.

But when you do that, you’re turning a blind eye to a beautiful and miraculous process. Difficult times are a prerequisite for growth, and crises are the signs of a life fully lived.

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Three Things You Can Do to Stop Being Haunted by Regret

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Three Things You Can Do to Stop Being Haunted by Regret

Regret is your mind's way of keeping you from repeating mistakes, but when it hangs around it can do more harm than good. Here I cover how your mind lays the groundwork for regret and how you can nip it in the bud. 

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How to Make Room For the Sublime in Your Life

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How to Make Room For the Sublime in Your Life

If you've ever been awestruck by something you witnessed, and saw the world in a new way afterward, then you've experienced the aesthetically sublime. Turns out, the conditions you need for those experiences happen to be similar to those for a sublime life. 

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Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part Two

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Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part Two

In Part One we covered that suspense is a gratifying variation on fear. Now, we dive into four critical differences between the two, and how to start enjoying more of the uncertainty that life brings your way. 

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Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part One

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Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part One

Facing the unknown in your life can be scary. But fear, mixed with delight and hope, produces enjoyable suspense. Here's how to start converting one to the other, so you can enjoy your cliffhanger moments.

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Balancing Independence and Connection

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Balancing Independence and Connection

Society's emphasis on independence sometimes minimizes our fundamental connection to each other. Whether you're walking down the street or talking to your partner, every action and non-action affects them, and you.

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Broaden and Build: How Positive Emotions Can Help You Thrive

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Broaden and Build: How Positive Emotions Can Help You Thrive

Recent research explores how viewing baby animal pictures helps you be focused and productive. Far from a fluff piece (ha), studies like this one are on the cutting edge of research into how positive emotions can help you thrive.

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Rising to the Challenge of Saying Goodbye

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Rising to the Challenge of Saying Goodbye

Saying goodbye to people you like is an inevitable part of life. Your job when you do it is to meet that physical ending with acceptance, and bring awareness to the legacy of the other that endures within you. And then to keep your heart open and soft.

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