5 Steps to Stop Thinking About the Past (in a Healthy Way)

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5 Steps to Stop Thinking About the Past (in a Healthy Way)

Our mind is a wonderful thing—except when it’s out of control, replaying painful, embarrassing, or shameful events from our past. Rumination isn’t just unpleasant, though. It retraumatizes us and reinforces negative beliefs (even though our mind is actually trying to help!).

Here’s a five-step approach to healing and growing where necessary, so you can stop dwelling on the past and start charting a new path forward.

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Feeling Stuck After Divorce (Instead of Free)

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Feeling Stuck After Divorce (Instead of Free)

The uncertainty of divorce can be destabilizing, no matter who initiated it, or whether you saw it coming. Not being able to see or plan for what’s next can let worry creep in, and when that happens, you can get stuck.

Here are a few ideas for how to reclaim your innate strength, confidence, and happiness, and feel free and able enough to chart a course toward the future you want.

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The Power of Not Knowing What to Do

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The Power of Not Knowing What to Do

If you’re stuck not knowing what to do next, because you aren’t sure what the right choice is, that’s not entirely bad. Before you flip a coin, react unwisely to the emotions you’re feeling, or pretend you know what you’re doing, consider staying with the uncertainty for a while.

Even in situations where it seems like your choices are equally good—or bad!—and you’re feeling confused and worried, arriving at your “I don’t know” is an important step in not just finding the right answer, but mastering your life.

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Three Things You Can Do to Stop Being Haunted by Regret

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Three Things You Can Do to Stop Being Haunted by Regret

Regret is your mind's way of keeping you from repeating mistakes, but when it hangs around it can do more harm than good. Here I cover how your mind lays the groundwork for regret and how you can nip it in the bud. 

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What a Sensory Deprivation Tank Can Reveal About Facing Difficulty

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What a Sensory Deprivation Tank Can Reveal About Facing Difficulty

Was spending a Friday night in a sensory deprivation tank blissful? Not exactly, but it did illustrate the aversion and reactivity that causes us to suffer, and what we can do about it.

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Hurt Feelings: When Are They Too Much?

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Hurt Feelings: When Are They Too Much?

As good as social connection can be, it also leaves us vulnerable to being hurt by others. Here's how best to cope with it when it happens. Also, how hurt feelings can point to things inside you that could use some attention.

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Unhealthy Relationships With Food: When Eating Is What's Eating You

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Unhealthy Relationships With Food: When Eating Is What's Eating You

A reader of mine wanted to hear more about unhealthy relationships with food. Here's why it can be so hard to eat the types and amounts of food we want to, and how mindfulness can help.

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Trying to Get Fit? Don't Neglect Your Mind.

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Trying to Get Fit? Don't Neglect Your Mind.

Your mind is an important part of your body, so be sure to include it in your fitness program. Mindfulness meditation provides a wealth of mental and physical health benefits, and helps you achieve whole-life fitness. 

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