5 Steps to Stop Thinking About the Past (in a Healthy Way)

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5 Steps to Stop Thinking About the Past (in a Healthy Way)

Our mind is a wonderful thing—except when it’s out of control, replaying painful, embarrassing, or shameful events from our past. Rumination isn’t just unpleasant, though. It retraumatizes us and reinforces negative beliefs (even though our mind is actually trying to help!).

Here’s a five-step approach to healing and growing where necessary, so you can stop dwelling on the past and start charting a new path forward.

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Feeling Stuck After Divorce (Instead of Free)

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Feeling Stuck After Divorce (Instead of Free)

The uncertainty of divorce can be destabilizing, no matter who initiated it, or whether you saw it coming. Not being able to see or plan for what’s next can let worry creep in, and when that happens, you can get stuck.

Here are a few ideas for how to reclaim your innate strength, confidence, and happiness, and feel free and able enough to chart a course toward the future you want.

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The Power of Not Knowing What to Do

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The Power of Not Knowing What to Do

If you’re stuck not knowing what to do next, because you aren’t sure what the right choice is, that’s not entirely bad. Before you flip a coin, react unwisely to the emotions you’re feeling, or pretend you know what you’re doing, consider staying with the uncertainty for a while.

Even in situations where it seems like your choices are equally good—or bad!—and you’re feeling confused and worried, arriving at your “I don’t know” is an important step in not just finding the right answer, but mastering your life.

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How to Get Focused and Stay Focused

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How to Get Focused and Stay Focused

No matter how motivated you are to start, distraction is always ready to strike. Here's how to get your focus on target and keep it there, so you can finish tasks efficiently and move on to the next thing with peace of mind.

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How to Stop Procrastination the Creative Way

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How to Stop Procrastination the Creative Way

Procrastination is often deemed a problem with focus, willpower, or self-doubt, but that’s not the whole story. Also, simply making more effort isn’t necessarily the best approach for dealing with it.

Recent research identifies a connection between procrastination and your imagination, and points to a fresh way of getting unstuck and feeling inspired to take action right now. Here I walk you through the steps for doing just that, which have proven helpful for me and my clients.

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Three Things You Can Do to Stop Being Haunted by Regret

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Three Things You Can Do to Stop Being Haunted by Regret

Regret is your mind's way of keeping you from repeating mistakes, but when it hangs around it can do more harm than good. Here I cover how your mind lays the groundwork for regret and how you can nip it in the bud. 

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Three Daily Affirmations for People Who Don't Like Affirmations

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Three Daily Affirmations for People Who Don't Like Affirmations

Here’s are the top three ideas that, if you can internalize them, can help you bring resilience, performance, peace, and happiness into your life, and keep it there.

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Five Ways to Navigate Life Transitions Successfully

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Five Ways to Navigate Life Transitions Successfully

Change is headed your way, whether you like it—and whether you see it coming—or not. Here are five ways to handle life transitions like a pro, and come out the other side stronger and happier.

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How to Get Unstuck When Fear is Holding You Back

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How to Get Unstuck When Fear is Holding You Back

Fear can show up even when you know you're making the best decision, so it's not a reliable indicator of what to do. Or is it? Here's how to get unstuck, and even use fear to your advantage, when it starts to creep up on you.

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